Never Give Up
joany53
To all those people out there who are looking for relatives living or dead I say to you never give up.
I was contacted at the end of September last year about a query, I myself had posted concerning my mothers maiden name of Madden. I did not know at this time that I was about to undertake my first reverse tree. I could not refuse helping the lady who has now become a very good friend, she had been given away at a couple of weeks old in 1951 and now was looking for her mother who also happened to have the same maiden name as my mother, however we were not related. I discovered that she had 3 half sisters and her mother who is now 81 is still alive.
6 months later I had her meeting her mother, 2 sisters and a nephew she did not know she had, it was also discovered that she has also got a brother plus another sister.
So if you come across that one person asking for that little bit of extra help it is sometimes worth it.
footnote: There are reasons that women gave their children away and sometimes it might just be too painful for a mother to acknowledge the child. However in this case it was my friends sisters that have taken her in with open arms
Comments
lyn22 on 2012-05-05 18:33:34What a lovely story your act of kindness gave that lady a family she might never have known and gave you a friend. My sister gave up a baby in 1958 and it still brings her terrible pain that she was not able to keep her daughter we need more people like you Joany 53. PS my sisters name that gave up her baby is Joan funny coincidence.
lyn22 on 2012-05-05 18:34:02
joany53 on 2012-05-05 18:45:06I am sure that maybe somewhere her baby will be looking for her. That is if she/he was ever told they were adopted, my friend only found out when she needed her birth certificate for university and we discovered that her real mother had actually registered her. She had been told insurmountable lies about her mothers age so on and so forth.
I would say this it is not the easiest journey to make even as a researcher, I made sure my friend was with me just about every step of the way and I would advise anybody else who is undertaking this kind of research to include the person who wants the research done. Then what they end up with is not really to much of a surprise.
I do hope your sister finds her child at the end of the day and gives her some peace.
lyn22 on 2012-05-05 23:41:28My sister found her daughter about 5 years ago and the daughter never new she was adopted and didnt want to know anything about it. My sister is 20 years older than me and in a nursing home now and doesnt speak about it anymore I think it is just to painful she went on to have 3 sons and another daughter.Nice taking to you thanks for your time Lynette
mowsehowse on 2012-05-07 10:28:36How lovely, and KIND.
What goes around comes around.